You can customize the look of the prompts in the chat buffer. There are separate settings for local (i.e. your own messages) and foreign prompts.
jabber-chat-text-local and jabber-chat-text-foreign
determine the faces used for chat messages.
jabber-chat-prompt-local and jabber-chat-prompt-foreign
determine the faces used for the prompts.
jabber-chat-local-prompt-format and
jabber-chat-foreign-prompt-format determine what text is
displayed in the prompts. They are format strings, with the following
special sequences defined:
%t%n%u%r%jjabber-chat-time-format defines how %t shows time. Its
format is identical to that passed to format-time-string.
See Time Conversion (GNU Emacs Lisp Reference Manual).
jabber-chat-delayed-time-format is used instead of
jabber-chat-time-format for delayed messages (messages sent while
you were offline, or fetched from history). This way you can have short
timestamps everywhere except where you need long ones. You can always
see the complete timestamp in a tooltip by hovering over the prompt with
the mouse.
“rare” times). This can be toggled with
jabber-print-rare-time. You can customize the displayed time by
setting jabber-rare-time-format. Rare timestamps will be printed
whenever time formatted by that format string would change.
You can also customize the header line of chat buffers, by modifying
the variable jabber-chat-header-line-format. The format of
that variable is the same as that of mode-line-format and
header-line-format. See Mode-Line Format (GNU Emacs Lisp Reference Manual). For MUC buffers,
jabber-muc-header-line-format is used instead.
The variable jabber-chat-fill-long-lines controls whether long
lines in the chat buffer are filled.